Thursday, January 28, 2010

random updates :)

I realized I've mentioned some things and then never gone back to them, and have had a couple of requests for updates :)

But first, I have to tell you guys this story.

I have a friend, M, who I used to work with when I was a first year teacher. He and his wife and hubby and I hung out sometimes, but they have 4 kids, so it's way harder for them to be free. Anyway, in October, I ran into him and he told me that his sister and brother-in-law had had a baby, and she wasn't doing too well and had been transferred to Mayo. It was horrible news to me-I wish this would never happen :( Anyway, he emailed me a few days ago to tell me that his baby niece had passed away after a month from a rare lung condition. He was wondering if I would get in touch with his sister-in-law just to be a support person, and I said I absolutely would.
So I sent her an e-mail with links to glowinthewoods, my blog, some other stuff, and just told her that I was here when she needed anyone to vent to or someone to understand. I noticed on her facebook that she had posted how hard it was going back to work.
Well, I just got her reply, and she was so nice and then....you will not believe this. She told me that there's something M probably never told me. She is a NICU hurse. At the hospital where I had my babies.
Not only was she there when Aiden died but SHE TOOK CARE OF HIM.
She knew my son.
She knew him. Saw him. Took care of him and tried to keep him alive.
She said she hung back while he was going because she was pregnant and loss was a lot harder (which, hello, of COURSE it would be!). And she said she thought of us for weeks after and how hard it must be.
And I HATE that she is feeling this now. I hate that her sweet daughter is not with her. But I don't think I need to explain to you all the impact of hearing from someone who KNEW MY SON. This gave my heart this burst. Which simultaneously broke all over again thinking of the pain she is now in.
Life is mysterious, yo. I swear.

Anyway, some updates :

I ate in the teachers lounge all 3 days this week. So far, so good. No one got up and like screamed or anything when I walked in, and we mostly gossiped about admin and students (don't worry, we don't talk smack about kids, just talk about how we can help them :)

I went to the urologist. He said that he thinks I actually never had a UTI in the first place! Apparently, I have had 5 red blood cells in every urinalysis I've had since at least 2004 (which is when I moved here, so records go back that far). He looked at a CT scan I had a year and a half ago and he ruled out kidney stones or a tumor. He thinks I might have tiny little lesions in my bladder that are further pushed on when I'm pregnant. He wants to check my bladder, but not while I'm pregnant because going up there could introduce infection (AH that word-no way). He actually thinks that the antibiotics I took for the UTI that I probably didn't have further irritated my bladder. Seriously-so confusing!

I don't have another dr appt until 2/12. Two more weeks. I can do this. And if I can't, I'm just going to call and ask for an appt! Because just try and tell me no!

I'm SO glad tomorrow is Friday. We have had 3 house showings in the past few days. Isn't that nuts? I am so, so, so, so hoping we can ditch this place, and soon!

Ok, I think that's about it. :)

13 comments:

Bree said...

Wow, that story gives me chills. It's kind of neat (in a horrible way, but you know what I mean) when you become the one who helps another LBM out. Hopefully, you two will become good friends.

So glad there's nothing serious going on with your bladder. My doctors decided not to treat this infection I'm having. They said it's very minor. Hmm....

Good to hear from you!

withoutmypunkin said...

wow... small world.
Glad that the lounge went ok!

Nicolle

Nan & Mike said...

Wow, talk about meeting someone for a reason. Amazing. My prayers are with her.
I hope your bladder is just a product of getting big and plump :) Hang in there sweet girl! xo

Courtney said...

Oh my gosh, I am in tears reading this. WOW. I am so glad that you connected with him but oh how I wish it was not under the circumstances it is. Just breaks my heart hearing of someone else going through it as well.

*hugs*

Lea said...

What an incredible story! Just amazing... how comforting for you.

Bluebird said...

Oh, wow, that totally gave me goosebumps! I once came across a girl who admitted to being an L&D nurse who helped behind the scenes when I was in the hospital. I was so, so touched just by the thought that she was there - I can't imagine meeting someone who knew and cared for my *children*!!

Marie W said...

A shiver went down my spine reading this! If there was one thing that come from our losses is that we are able to be a support for other mothers who travel the same road. Praying for your friend.

I am glad you ate in the teachers lounge! Great first step!

Catherine W said...

That is amazing, to meet a lady who looked after your Aiden. I do so wish it had been under different circumstances. I'm so sorry to read that her little girl passed away. As you say, life is mysterious.

Yay for eating in the teacher's lounge. I'm glad it's gone well. You've inspired me to try and get back into my old routines at work too.

The urology thing is totally confusing. But, if you feel better, that's the most important thing.

Good luck with the house showings, I hope they went well. xo

Holly said...

Wow, I can't believe she took care of Aiden! I'm sorry she has to experience loss too.

Well, that's good there's no infection!

Lizy said...

I am so with you on that Teacher's lounge can be horrible....I took me a while to go back and some days I might peek in and not go inside. To many pregnant women with my same due date in march. So now you know what teacher are doing in June so that they all end up PG and due in March..lol...Hugs amiga, Email me would love to talk. Lizy

Kristy said...

Its such a small world. In a way i'm glad that we ended up going to a hospital 2 hours away when L was born as I didn't have to face anyone we knew. We didn't know the Dr's and nurses, we didn't know the hospital. We could leave after the nightmare and not have to see any of them again. I didn't have to walk back in that hospital again (and hope to never have to go back). In a way, its comforting to know I don't have to see them and have an uncomfortable conversation. But, it would also make my heart melt to have someone talk about L and about how incredible he was. Your story was very touching. I'm sorry your friend has to know this pain too. It doesn't make any sense why so many damn babies have to be taken away much too soon. :(

xoxo

Akul's mama said...

What an amazing story. Finding real life LBMs is always a different experience. Ofcourse I hope and pray that no one ever has to go through this life time pain. Hugsssss.

AKD said...

Christy - first, I just wanted to thank you for your INCREDIBLY sweet words. I'm so glad to hear from you, and now to have the opportunity to follow your blog!

That's just really amazing how things work out, isn't it? I think it's so sweet that you're providing such a source of support to someone who knew your Aiden. Sending you hugs!

I think you're absolutely right to be calling the dr's office and getting updates if needed! I think so much of having our rainbow babies is feeling like we are doing what we can to protect them!