tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post922761435079172511..comments2023-10-02T09:58:38.103-05:00Comments on Almost a Mother: NormalChristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01498901545149667223noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-6604437995711143932011-09-17T23:31:13.173-05:002011-09-17T23:31:13.173-05:00Just checkin' in on you. Missin' ya, hope...Just checkin' in on you. Missin' ya, hope all is ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-90820317862869445942011-08-29T23:42:01.468-05:002011-08-29T23:42:01.468-05:00Friend...you know I love you. I could go on and o...Friend...you know I love you. I could go on and on about how precious those pictures of you and Bree and the girls are, or how I SO know the whole PCOS crap, or how a new school/story/everything at once is overwhelming situation makes you want to scream.<br /><br />But you know what makes me the most angry (for you?!) That bless your heart, on your OWN blog, you are still so careful in not 'whining' because GOD FORBID someone think that you are a 'normal' mom entitled to be having it tough, lest someone think you are ungrateful for your sweet girl. I could *feel* it when you wrote that you totally knew how lucky you were, etc. <br /><br />You know what? I think anyone that knows you (well, as much as I do through the good old internet, right?) knows how you adore that sweet baby girl and that you are extremely aware of how blessed your life with her is, but by golly, if you want to talk about how hard these days have been, then you ought to be able to do so!!!! Without having to justify your hard time. <br /><br />I hate that people expect that since we've lost babies, and had subsequent ones, we aren't supposed to have the same trials and tribulations that other 'normal' parents go through. It's not a fair expectation of us, and I'm sorry if you feel judged or have ever felt judged for just being REAL and honest. <br /><br />And I'll get off my soapbox, yo.<br />Love you, friend!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-80509698307946019832011-08-27T19:58:54.771-05:002011-08-27T19:58:54.771-05:00Oh wow, I'm so sorry, Christy. That's a l...Oh wow, I'm so sorry, Christy. That's a lot of change to take on all at once. I'm not good with uncertainty, either. Makes it hard to sleep, which just adds to depression and irritability for me. I hope you can get in to see the doc soon! Get those hormones straightened out, and start getting lots of sleep!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-24607578577270211942011-08-25T16:12:09.176-05:002011-08-25T16:12:09.176-05:00Oh Christy. It is hard to be a worker and a mom an...Oh Christy. It is hard to be a worker and a mom and a wife. And I only work part time. I also had a daughter who used to randomly hit me (although head butts were definitely her favourite mode of attack!), they do grow out of it but it is miserable whilst they are in their attacking phase and especially when it seems to be reserved for mommy :(<br /><br />And I also often feel as though I am failing at EVERYTHING. And the guilt! ARGH! <br /><br />I don't think I'll ever be able to chat idly about twins either, as much as I would like to be able to. Just to close to the bone for me and I'm sorry that the colleague who knows your story didn't try and steer the conversation in a different direction for you. xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-75044745120362740232011-08-25T00:40:31.537-05:002011-08-25T00:40:31.537-05:00i'm sorry about everything that you're dea...i'm sorry about everything that you're dealing with. i don't understand why when things get difficult, everything else needs to pile up. i hope you get a break soon--from the pcos, from the insensitive conversation, from all the things that bring you additional stress, when it's hard enough to miss your babies. ((hugs))crystal theresahttp://fragments.louielovescrystal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-80329545204953449682011-08-24T23:32:09.366-05:002011-08-24T23:32:09.366-05:00As always, you sound normal, normal, normal, norma...As always, you sound normal, normal, normal, normal to me. And I know that this kind of "normal" (if we can call it that) really reeks. It's lonely, it's unsettling, it's unnerving, and it's hard to find words for. I'm sorry, and I wish it wasn't like this for you.<br /><br />Your writing helps other people. That doesn't make it any easier and it doesn't make it worth the struggle - but you are helping people even when you don't know you are. I just wish life didn't have to be like it is.<br /><br />Cathy in MissouriGroveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867095709948739457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-1412425956856327292011-08-23T18:57:04.519-05:002011-08-23T18:57:04.519-05:00so sorry to hear you are going through this. I can...so sorry to hear you are going through this. I can definitely relate- we just move half way across the country, and being a blm makes it just soooo hard to know what to say around new people who don't know about our angels. Sometimes I cope better, other times I find myself almost blurting it out like if I say it fast it will be over quick. <br /><br />As for the PCOS, my life saver has been yasmin... No breakouts, no bloating, no bearded chin!! Of course it seems REALLY asinine to be taking a "birth control pill", but if it keeps my symptoms under control- I'm all for it! <br /><br />Good luck with the new job!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-76083638335764855182011-08-23T13:59:59.828-05:002011-08-23T13:59:59.828-05:00Boo for all of that! Boo for having to inform new...Boo for all of that! Boo for having to inform new people of your story. You hit such a chord with me on that. I'm usually so good at making new friends, but haven't been since I moved here and I think it's the having to tell my story again, so that people understand me. People can't be close to me and not know that part of me, but I'm not always in a place to share it. So, I have so much sympathy for you and wish I could make you feel better. I hate that the pcos is acting up too, it sucks to feel bad on top of all of this! And I'm quite certain that you are giving miss Avery all of the love and attention she needs, don't beat yourself up!! Lots of love from me!Denihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16241957159520703116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-1613767767401244662011-08-23T03:22:21.652-05:002011-08-23T03:22:21.652-05:00Christy, I feel for you. I remember well the rigor...Christy, I feel for you. I remember well the rigors of teaching. I taught special ed. for 27 years and it wasn't a hard job physically, but was hard emotionally. I came home worn out every day and had to cook supper,<br />clean up afterwards, etc. My husband did laundry and helped with the children's homework. Thank goodness I had aides at school to do grading or I would have had work to bring home with me. I'm so sorry you have to listen to the talk about twins. I remember going to school all those years on Meredith's birthday and if I happened to mention to one of my friends that it was her birthday, I usually got a blank look. I wanted so badly to stay at home those days and just remember her. I know you will get through this day by day, a little at a time. (((HUGS)))Sarita Boyettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05114918446765517683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-65278129113855175532011-08-23T01:20:23.574-05:002011-08-23T01:20:23.574-05:00Three years later, I still don't cope well in ...Three years later, I still don't cope well in some group settings. I don't like meeting new people and I'm shy and nervous in a way I never was before.<br />Thinking of you, mama.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-84252309438922988232011-08-22T20:13:37.381-05:002011-08-22T20:13:37.381-05:00I am so sorry you are going through so much upheav...I am so sorry you are going through so much upheaval all at once. Alice has been violent lately, too, it must be this age. I think of you whenever I hear of twins, too.Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.com