tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post3459643453785420769..comments2023-10-02T09:58:38.103-05:00Comments on Almost a Mother: Compare/ContrastChristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01498901545149667223noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-72892000912468797162010-02-19T09:45:04.996-06:002010-02-19T09:45:04.996-06:00First of all, I *hated* middle school! Second of ...First of all, I *hated* middle school! Second of all, great post :) <br /><br />I definitely do this, very much so for a while there, especially. And, like you said, not only treatment and outcomes, but emotions too. At tne end of the day, the shear amount of blogs actually help - because no two are the same. So, while I might compare myself to one, I also compare myself to another and end up looking at things in a different light.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-48768554237550670752010-02-18T09:04:31.984-06:002010-02-18T09:04:31.984-06:00Hi honey,
Good post, and as you can see the commen...Hi honey,<br />Good post, and as you can see the comments all agree with you, yes we all compare and relate and know how you feel, its so hard not to. I have been working on that with the shrink for about a month now and it all comes back to "I have no control over what is going to be so I just have to try and enjoy the time I have" kinda thing. <br /><br />I wish I had you for a teacher back in the day!!!<br /><br />Sending you big hugs xoxoxoxox NanNan & Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04379229157112328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-38707417236677081902010-02-17T23:26:33.686-06:002010-02-17T23:26:33.686-06:00It is human to comapre but I am always aware that ...It is human to comapre but I am always aware that each person and situation is unique. Sunil came in to tell me the other day that what happened to Akul would happen to only .005% babies - so guess who is that .005% - US. Will it happen again? I have no idea and no one does. HugsssssssAkul's mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02731802741502891348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-60145586366809717152010-02-17T18:52:29.578-06:002010-02-17T18:52:29.578-06:00ummm... yeah, been there done that and still do it...ummm... yeah, been there done that and still do it all the time!Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12605661045426878109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-35327959792312358342010-02-17T18:16:10.322-06:002010-02-17T18:16:10.322-06:00I compare/contrast myself all of the time, too! &...I compare/contrast myself all of the time, too! "Her cervical length is longer/shorter - is that bad/good for me? What does that mean?" I think it's so normal for what we're going through - but I think you're just amazing, and would be so proud to have you teach my kids. :)Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-36277661605827710312010-02-17T17:58:16.399-06:002010-02-17T17:58:16.399-06:00I think it is human nature to compare ourselves to...I think it is human nature to compare ourselves to others. I find myself doing this too at times, but I often remind myself that everyone grieves, feels, and heals differently. We are all individuals who need each other for support and that is why we stick together and continue reading and commenting on each others blogs. xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-7595635797373784182010-02-17T17:50:55.449-06:002010-02-17T17:50:55.449-06:00Its definitely hard not to want to compare yoursel...Its definitely hard not to want to compare yourself, but I know my story is not like anyone else's. Sure there could be similarities, but I am me and my story is MY life. I try not to think about what someone else is or isn't doing, because they are doing what is righ for them. Just like others may not do what I do and thats okay too. We all grieve in our own way. Really, the only thing all of us have, 100% in common is that we have lost one or more child. Thats it. Just remember that you are unique, your babies are unique, this new pregnancy is unique. xoxoKristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134970929000997104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-27013885089281968822010-02-17T15:13:31.995-06:002010-02-17T15:13:31.995-06:00wow. good point. i definately do that too. in fact...wow. good point. i definately do that too. in fact, i think i did that in the email i just sent you. i guess that's one reason why i didn't join the IC boards. i have a few blogger friends who have cerclages right now, but i'd like to think we spend more time supporting each other during our freak outs. i don't even think you need therapy, girl! that was a pretty good realization!<br /><br />i love middle school, too. i've taught 1st - 8th grade and my favorite has always been middle schoolers. they make me laugh. and, i agree. somedays it's just more important to work on those social issues/skills than teach the curriculum.Breehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03894396436704042272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-42349340302074807002010-02-17T15:08:10.395-06:002010-02-17T15:08:10.395-06:00I compared myself to others the entire time I was ...I compared myself to others the entire time I was pregnant with Evan. In fact, I still do. I think it only made me worry more. I was on the IC Forum everyday (as well as searching blogs). Every twinge I felt, I had to see if someone else had it and then had a loss, every cervical length check, I had to see the CL's of those who also had a loss. It was nerve wracking! Sadly, that is our normal. I think because we are so knowledgeable because of our losses, we know where to look for information and we crave more even if it means comparing our situation to others.<br />Many times I had to remind myself that everyone is different. I also repeated this mantra to myself - "I'm doing all I can, the rest is up to God".<br />Thinking of you!Marie Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18203552551406512142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-26867803796903071642010-02-17T15:03:09.909-06:002010-02-17T15:03:09.909-06:00Do I compare myself to others??
Every day. Every...Do I compare myself to others??<br /><br />Every day. Every hour. Every minute. <br /><br />Yeah...I do. I'm working on this; trying to find a place where my mind's introspection doesn't keep turning into interrogation and judgment. I'm trying to treat myself with the love and patience I give others every day. I'm trying to remember that I'm a person worth loving and that needs to start with me loving myself. <br /><br />However...I still find myself bashing myself with my thoughts. Others are smarter, happier, easier going, others aren't as crazy, as fat, as short, as anxious. Others get to have ALL their babies happy and healthy. I'm five for five. Someone once told me I was a birth goddess. I thought about the miscarriages they didn't know about. And then, I lost my twins. A birth goddess? more like a train wreck.<br />A body that gets it WRONG half of the time. <br /><br />And yes...when I watch my beautiful sisters in life lose a baby AFTER a horrible loss...I think..."Oh god...that's what would happen to ME and I could NOT stand it!!" I also see the ladies that get to have beautiful babies after a loss...and I think..."They are allowed to have that kind of healing...but, I'm not allowed because I have living children. I get to stay in this pain forever."<br /><br />It's all crap really..because you are right. I teach my sons to be themselves...to not judge who they are based on who their brothers are, or who their friends are. I tell them this, and they must see what a hypocrite I am--kids are smart that way--when I beat myself up inside out the way I've been doing for the past 10 months. <br /><br />Oh....and by the way...as a homeschooling mother weaving my way through grief...I just wanted to say that if more teachers were like you were with your students... taking the time to teach real heart stuff... I'd be less adamant about homeschooling. As it is, I am not at all inclined to put my boys in with over crowded classrooms, underpaid teachers, understaffed playgrounds, and curriculum that don't really teach the individuals interests. ((HUG)) good job teacher....I have the utmost respect for you.Emerging Butterflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03308150825693906532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10101258511307320.post-2104605476636380272010-02-17T14:57:29.684-06:002010-02-17T14:57:29.684-06:00I defiantly do, like you have tried not to, esp no...I defiantly do, like you have tried not to, esp now. Its hard not to though! I think that makes you a awesome teacher for taking that teachable moment and using it! Thinking of you and your little one, hoping for a boring pregnancy!!With Out My Punkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18281873659003034133noreply@blogger.com